#54 - Have faith things will work out (even at the 11th hour)
The Universe will work its magic in your life, especially at the 11th hour - so long as you keep the faith.
In this episode, I share my current 11th hour miracle of finding a home to live in just days before our interstate move to Melbourne.
Do you find yourself worrying about how things will work out? Especially when the countdown and pressure is on?
I share the exact practices that supported me to keep the faith and stay calm - so you can have cultivate your own trust in 11th hour miracles.
What you will learn from this episode:
The power of staying detached from the outcome and releasing the need to control outcomes
How prayers like "this or something better" and "everything is working out in my favour" help the universe deliver 11th hour miracles
The importance of holding trust in the universe and that rejection is protection, so don’t fret if things don’t work out according to your plans/ wishes
How gratitude helps to keep you open to more blessings and can remind you of how things have worked out in the past to bolster your faith
How mindfulness and presence reduces anxiety and helps you not get lost in the future
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This episode also aired on JOY 94.9 Thursday 14 December as part of its summer program.
Transcript
Episode 54 - Have faith things will work out (even at the 11th hour!)
Hey, Hey, it's Mandy Kai and you are listening to the Find your Calling podcast. And I am so happy to have you joining me today. I am tuning in from my very new place in Melbourne. We arrived yesterday afternoon. It's all been a bit of a whirlwind to be honest. Because if you've been listening to the podcast you would know that this time last week I was arriving into Sydney on my flight from London. So It's been hectic.
And it's what really prompted this episode today, because once again, the universe delivered in the 11th hour the place that we were going to move into. And I thought that I would share the story and then unpack the key things that really help to cultivate the trust in that 11th hour miracle delivering divine goodness. So that you can also experience it in your own life, no matter whether or not you are wanting to move or, wanting a new job or trying to get something off the ground, or just in a situation where you need a solution and the Divine's help.
Okay, the story goes that. We didn't really know where we were going to be living in Melbourne. Like it's hard. I have never lived here. Hana's lived here. I don't have a job yet. So I was bearing that in mind to be like, well, I don't know exactly which side of the city I should be on because I haven't got my job yet. Hana had sort of some key things, in her mind of what she needed. Because she is putting a show on for Melbourne Fringe Festival. So she knows where the venue was. So she wanted to be within short distance of that.
We definitely wanted to be within a fairly short driving distance to the Melbourne spiritualist church, because we went back to the spiritualist church when we were in Portsmouth, UK recently. And just fricking love that place. If you don't know about the spiritualist church. It doesn't have ministers or pastors like Christian, religious churches that you may be accustomed to , if you've come from the Christian background. This has mediums as, people who deliver, the service. And it's just so beautiful and reassuring because they deliver messages from loved ones who've passed. And we were just like, we really wouldn't be within, a commute to that, not a commute, but like a easy driving distance.
And anyway, I won't go through the whole big process, but we ended up deciding to look at the Western suburbs basically, which is the opposite side of the city that we had looked at. When I'd come down to Melbourne and we'd looked at like beautiful Northcote. And I was like, oh my God, it's so pretty. I could imagine myself living there. And there was a really great health food store. And I was like, okay, well, let's live there. But then, I started noticing that some of the jobs that I was wanting to apply for are actually west of the city. In Footscray. And also women's circus is this side of the city, which Hana had said she wanted to be easy distance to one of the community circus places. And women circuses one of those and. I was like, okay, well I'll just start looking.
Because you know, I'm a researcher, I'm a one-line in Human Design. I fricking love to sit down and just like comb through Ppages and pages of real estate ads and consider where we might live and how far away that is from everything. Like, that's my jam. Hana f**cking hates it (laughs). I love it. I have such a good time doing it.
And we happened across this particular apartment that we loved. It was so beautiful. And when we saw it, Hana was like, should we just apply for it now? And I was like, no, that's ridiculous. I don't even know where I'm going to be working. It's irrational just to apply for it right now.
And then as time wore on and we looked around and we just kept coming back to this one apartment that we were like, you know what, let's start inquiring about it. And, the more that we progressed with it. We totally could picture ourselves living in this gorgeous apartment. And it had everything on our wishlist. And we all, like, let's just leap and just put the application in for it, even though we don't have all these other things in place and it seemed like the right thing to do. And we felt really good about it.
And. If, you want the punchline, that is not the house that I'm sitting in right now (laughs).
So we put the application in. And we're waiting to hear back from it and like, I really thought that we were going to get it. I was just like, why would you not want to like rent to us? Because we come with really good references. So we don't really have all the employment side of things completely looked in. We've both got self-employment income, but we've also just spent like five weeks traveling around and yeah. I've been house sitting for the better part of this year. But I still felt like, you know what? We've got solid references. We've got enough money to pay the rent. We've got savings. Like I was like, surely, they're just going to be like, yes, we want you to live in our house.
But Thursday afternoon we got the notice to say, Nope, you haven't got the place. We were just like, Wow. Okay. And I tried to stay detached from the outcome because I knew that there was a possibility that it may not be for us and my prayer to the universe was this place or something better. Like I knew it may or may not be meant for us, but I'd kind of by Thursday thought, surely, this is the place we're going to be in.
And we have a time limit to get to Melbourne. So the Melbourne Fringe program launch is tomorrow night, like Thursday night. So we had to get down here for then. So Thursday afternoon, we're like, well, we still want to move to Melbourne on Tuesday, but we don't know where we're going to go. And we're on a train on the way back from Sydney. So we were still on route, back from London at this point, when we discovered that we didn't get the place. And. I guess when we're on the train, I just said to Hana, look, let's just not act impulsively. Let's give it a little bit of time to work out. Where are we meant to go and what are we actually going to do next?
Both of us felt disappointed. Like I felt it in my heart, the disappointment of not getting this place. And while also holding the wider trust in the universe. And I must admit. I did feel like a little bit of a tantruming toddler inside to be like, yeah, I really get that you've can see the bigger picture divine oh universe, but I really wanted that house. And yes, you might see the bigger picture. Maybe there were terrible neighbours. Maybe the landlords were awful or the real estate agent was going to be really difficult to deal with.
It was only just a few episodes ago that I talked about rejection is protection. And I really do believe in that because when you're in flow and you're open to the unfolding path and then only good can occur, right?
Like it's just like, Everything is working out for us in our favour. And I trust that. But yeah, when you sort of looking at it from from my limited perspective, I was like, I think you've got this wrong. But I know you haven't but, inside I'm going, but surely that's the one that we were meant to get.
Anyway, Hana dived into her own headphones and music to process her own feelings. And I just sat looking out the window on this train journey and was sitting with the feelings and the open space of like, okay “What's next?” And I was just enjoying the quietness and sitting with the feelings really. Because it was like, okay, well that, wasn't obviously the path for us. What is, I wonder?
And I kind of thought. It would take about a day or so before any other action came through, because we were like, literally, so jet lagged. It's still on a train, just trying to get back to my mother's. We hadn't even been in the country 24 hours by that point.
But then I picked up my phone and I went back to the Facebook group I'd been looking at for short-term rentals in Melbourne. And I just picked it up. And in all fairness , without hindsight, I would've thought I was just doing an automatic reaction to what I've been doing this whole time of researching and looking at what's out there but I picked it up and I went into this Facebook group.
And one of the first post to jump up was a couple talking about how much difficulty they were having in trying to secure a place. And that was the first time that I got connected to the fact that there's a rental crisis happening in Melbourne. And many people were having a lot of difficulty. Getting a place and the comment that showed up without me even going into the post was somebody saying, Hey, try this Facebook group. That was a Facebook group I hadn't heard of.
So I jumped into it and the minute I jumped into it, there was a post from a woman renting her semi furnished place in the same suburb as what the one was that we'd just applied for and missed out on. And it was within our price bracket and it was in the same area and I was like, this sounds pretty sweet. And she was flexible. She would like someone in there for six months or more. And yeah, I showed it to Hana. I was like, what do you think. And she was like, I think it sounds good.
So I reached out to the person just to find out a little bit more information and she was like, “Hey, let's just get on the phone and talk”. And we did, and it all sounded pretty good. And we arranged a time on Saturday morning to do a video walkthrough
And so within the hour of us finding out that we didn't get that place. Things had just lined up too get us connected to this person who was like, yep, I've got a place. It's within a kilometer of the place that we missed out on. And yeah, it was all lined up to have this walkthrough on Saturday. And she had some other people looking at it and we asked, could we please be the first people to look at it? Because I believed I was the first person to reach out to her. Because literally she'd only posted the posts, like within hours of me seeing it as well.
Which is exactly what happened to the place we scored in Bali as well. When we got caught over there at the beginning of COVID. And so the short story to that is that we looked through. And we got it. And we're here, like within days.
And I must say this flows so much easier than the rental that we were trying to get through an agency. From the beginning of the enquiries to finding out that we were unsuccessful in the first place, it spanned. 10 days. And from first enquiry to moving in was four days.
I'm just like, wow. it flowed so easily. And of course we had that little bit of fear in the back of our minds of just like, is it really going to pull off? I wouldn't call it fear. It was just that anything could fall through before we get there and we've exchanged bond and keys and stuff were just like, okay. Well, it looks like it's going to happen. When we arrived and she said, I'm here, we were like, okay, this is actually going to occur.
And we're here.
So I really wanted to share that story because even, the owner was like, wow, you guys wanted to move in really quickly. You left it really late to find somewhere. And people overseas had also inquired to us like, oh see you moving to Melbourne. Do you have somewhere willing? No, not yet.
I want to assure you that the universe works really well on the 11th hour.
I can't tell you how many times things just come through on the 11th hour and I've come to believe that, perhaps maybe that's because we get to exercise and build our faith in the universe, delivering and having our backs and it almost likes to test our faith in some regards and. Yeah, in this one, it was like it fully, fully worked out.
So what the things that really helped me and Hana navigate this so that we didn't lose ourselves in concern. I guess what's the scale concern on one end to utter panic on the other. And I really wouldn't even say either of us felt like that. Like we felt disappointed that we didn't get the first place because it was so freaking pretty. And it was bigger than the one that we're in right now.
But I have to say that as far as a landing place, new place in Melbourne this is actually the better option because it's semi-finished and it has more stuff in it than what we anticipated. So it's got a fully functional kitchen with crockery and cutlery and. Frickin pots and pans and the owner's dad was living here for a little while and he has this really comfortable queen-sized bed here. And he agreed to let us use it until our bed arrives from storage. So we've got this really comfy bed and the owner was so sweet that she washed the bedding. Like left bedding for us even, we had a little bit of bedding, but we didn't have sheets. And that was all left here. It's like moving into a freaking Airbnb. And that has just made it the easiest thing possible, particularly because we've had to really hit the ground running. Like Hana went straight to women's circus to start training and doing a rehearsals for the show. And. I've got a job application due tomorrow. So we are fully of gratitude for just the ease in which this has unfolded.
I think one of the key things to support yourself through any process, if you're in the process as well of needing an 11th hour miracle to occur or you're on the edge of your seat, wanting and waiting for something to come through that's really important. Like I still need a job. I still needed a regular income to be paying the amount of rent that we're paying.
The key Is to practice mindfulness and presence because the mind will get carried away in anxiety more often when you're running away into the future and catastrophising what may or may not happen in the future, but just really practicing, bringing yourself back to the present moment. Can really help you manage the mind's tendency to panic about what's happening or worry about the future.
Today I must admit I had a moment of just like a little overwhelmed. I've just like, oh my God, this is such a big process. Like I've never lived here before. I feel like I'm having complete culture shock. And yeah, the enormity of what's occurring. And I kind of got this little wave of overwhelm of just like, oh my God. And these big feelings. And when I brought myself back to the present moment I realised I'm completely safe and fine in this present moment. My breath will just keep me going and just one step in front of the other and it will be okay. And it will all fall into place. And right now, everything is okay.
And if you have the capacity to be. In the present moment, then you have the capacity to realise that you're okay. Because if you're in some life or death situation and you're literally running for your life or something, then you're not really coming and bringing yourself into the present moment. You're just doing what you need to do to actually get into a safe place. But. More often than not. You can bring yourself back to the present and realize that, right, this very minute, you are okay. And then remind yourself to trust.
And it really helps to release the need to control outcomes. This is closely associated with letting go of attachment to outcomes as well. It's about handing over and letting go of control and trusting. That the universe and the divine, or God knows what's best and is guiding us to what's best and that it knows in your heart all the desires that you have, and what's actually going to be in your highest and best interest. And to not try to micromanage every detail. And just let go.
Every moment that I found myself attaching to that other house, I was saying prayers to the universe of “I let it go over to you”. “I hand it to you”. “I'd love to live there, but if that's not the place, then please keep guiding us to what is for our best interests”.
So let go of control. And let go of attachment to the outcome and reiterate to yourself that "things are always working out in your favor and that things are always working out for you.
And if you need to, in those moments, if you are struggling to believe that you're going to get the outcome that you want, as in, you're going to find that in your house, your going to find that new job or you're going to get this business off the ground, or you're going to get your artistic endeavour out into the world, that show on the stage, what ever it is. It's like just trust. And then look at the past experiences that you have go comb over your evidence that you've had in the past of things, working out. Even if that's on the very last 11th hour possible. And remind yourself. Hey, things have a way of working out unexpectedly or miraculously and that reminding yourself of those can help you build trust and confidence in the idea that you have this greater power that will provide for you as long as you can just open yourself up to the guidance and the support and the path that's being shown.
And gratitude, gratitude is such an important practice. Every time I was just in this moment of liminal space, I would actively look at what is it that I'm really grateful for right now. Because gratitude generates such a positive space. It allows miracles to enter your life and focus on what you already do have. And what has been working and is positive. And it can shift your focus and your perspective, and create that sense of trust and really the acknowledgement of the abundance and the blessings that you do have in your life.
Hana and I always end our day with a gratitude practice of sharing what we're grateful for that day. And we continue to do that every day. And it's such a beautiful ritual that we do together. And if I've needed to amplify it during this process, Then I've journalled about it as well in the morning and reflected on things that I'm grateful for.
And yeah, whatever it is that you really need to do to practice patience and embrace the uncertainty. So there's just no sense worrying at the 11th hour. Because miracles can happen at that point.
So it is Saturday afternoon until we knew that we were going to get a place that we wanted to move into on Tuesday. And even when we didn't know the outcome, People are asking us. Are you still going to go down on Tuesday? And it was like, well, we have to go down. It has to happen. On Tuesday or Wednesday, we've got to move to Melbourne. And I just knew, if it's not this place, then there will be another solution.
It was so clear in my mind. It's like, I don't need to panic about this because. One way or another, there was going to be a solution. And I'm grateful that this was the solution because it's been really smooth and easy.
And embrace the uncertainty because I talk a lot about this on the podcast about how your soul will constantly call you to the path of the unknown and into these liminal unknown spaces. And by virtue, then not comfortable because the mind loves security and to know what's actually happening your mind loves the certainty and it will panic on some level when things are uncertain and to actively just lean into those liminal spaces.
I had so much practice over this last week. And even that space on Saturday between, when we'd looked at it and we'd said, yes, we want it and we sent over some of our references and. And then we just had to wait for her. And unbeknownst to her, to us, she'd gone off to netball.
Oh, we didn't hear from her for hours. And I got to practice leaning back. Staying present. Trusting that all is unfolding as it should handing it over to my higher power and being like, “I trust you. You've got this. You've got me. I don't need to worry about this”, but I could see my mind's tendency to be just like, yeah, but is it going to happen? Like how long has it been since she's been online and you know, like that kind of ruminating a little bit, but just constant.
That's the practice, right? Like, I'm not some Zen monk here. Like not thinking about it. My mind, my monkey mind will bring myself back to being like, yeah, but you've got something to worry about. Cause you don't have anywhere. And it's like, Bring yourself back.
Bringing myself back coming back to the breath. Trusting. Praying.
And that's the other thing, have a prayer practice. Actively develop your relationship with your higher power with your angels. I read this the most gorgeous book recently about angels and how we each have a guardian angel. And I'm now cultivating that connection with my guardian angel in a stronger way, knowing that. Each of us has a guardian angel with us at all times. And they will they will sweep into assist us wherever they can.
And you can't kind of pray for, like, “I want to get that house”. Because that house might not be in your highest and best interest, but you can pray for the highest outcome for all to occur and to. Pray for the patience and pray for the calm and the peace through the process. And that's certainly what I was doing and it really helped.
And look here we are. 11th hour. We just drove on into this new place and life now in this new chapter has officially began.
All right. I hope that is reassuring to you and you can apply these steps and these suggestions to whatever situation you're in to trust more.
Have strong faith, you are being guided, you are being supported and loved and lean into that support. And have a beautiful week and I love you. And I will talk to you again soon. Ciao
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